sharing blessings, the miraculous, and God's love in everyday lives


Monday, November 23, 2009

Monday Morning Meditation #18: Arrogance Leads to Destruction

Much like the Jews in the wilderness whose story fills the Book of Numbers, I am still wandering through this book. I found Chapter 16 fascinating because I see so much in common between the ancient Jews and my modern peers. In this chapter, 250 people, led by a man named Korah, rise up against Moses and Aaron, and, by extension, against God. Their complaint is two-fold: (1) they are every bit as holy as Moses and Aaron and should have direct access to God, and (2) Moses (and, again by extension, God) has failed to bring them to a land of milk and honey). This angers God. Moses begs God to have mercy to these men and especially not to punish all the Jews for the sins of a few. When all is over, the Jews as a whole are spared by their leaving the tents of the rebellious leaders, as God demands through Moses, but the 250 who led the rebellion perish for their arrogance.

Reading: Numbers 16

Meditation: While there were a number of emotions floating around the Israeli camps, the one that seemed to permeate the most as I read this chapter is arrogance. Arrogance is an emotion that I see a lot at work. It is the most typical downfall of the junior and senior managers who work in my directorate and the topic that I address most frequently at leadership development meetings that I lead (or that I bring in others to lead). When I arrived at the directorate as its head nearly four years ago, I introduced servant leadership as the leadership approach across divisions -- rather unhappy divisions, I would note. In the past four years, as we all have become more skilled at being servants to our employees and as our employees through our regular reverse evaluations become more skilled at pointing out where we, their managers, are failing to be good servants, the unhappiness in the various divisions has turned to deep-seated satisfaction and happiness that even visitors find palpable. Still, I have a few programs whose managers just don't get it, and their employees are the ones who most frequently take advantage of my open-door policy to complain. The core issue with these managers has little to do with doing things right. Most are very good at doing things right; on the other hand, they, at times, are not willing to do the right thing when it would mean throwing out the rule book. The core issue is their arrogance in thinking that they are "in charge" and, therefore, they determine how things work. They seek power to make themselves feel important. What they don't understand is that

- managers are never truly in charge; the employees who do the critical work are really the ones in charge;

- power held is always weak; power given away (authority granted to employees) grows exponentially in direct proportion to the amount given away;

- when, through the arrogance that emanates from some sense of our greater worth or skill, we hold all leadership decision-making unto ourselves, we deprive God of the opportunity to be the true leader in our organizations for God, as we have seen in this passage, chooses to work through humble and obedient people and, at best, lets arrogant people do themselves in; the reality is that we are not just as good as God at leadership, and when we turn leadership over to God and do it His way, incredibly marvelous things happen, like the development of whole divisions that love each other and love coming to work and even, upon some occasions, real miracles. (I would note here that leadership and relationships in our families and communities does not differ much from leadership and relationships at work.)

There is another aspect to arrogance that comes out of this chapter: the arrogance that comes from expecting God to answer our prayers in the way we want at the time we want, as did those that complained that they had not yet seen the promised land and therefore they had no desire to follow Moses any longer. That arrogance assumes that God is required to live up to our requirements, that we know better than God what is best for us. God not answering prayer in the way they desire is one of the greatest complaints I hear from the teens in my catechism classes. The concept that God sometimes says "no" is something that even adults sometimes have trouble accepting. Yet, often we find a better answer when we don't tell God what to do but simply turn over our problem to Him (and don't take it back). Yes, bad things do happen, and people, including children, do die, but we cannot assume in arrogance to judge that God should have intervened. Only God knows when intervention is warranted and when it is not. We have to trust that He knows what we do not.

And that is far as I can go with you on this Monday morning. I must retire to prayer to ask God to show me how to let Him always be in charge and to nudge me to check myself for arrogance regularly, to repent for all those times I have made a leadership or even personal decision without first asking for His guidance, to give thanks for all the many ways He helps me on a daily basis at work and at home, and to offer praise for the way in which He resolves problems in ways that far surpass my abilities and even comprehension.

After that, I will spend some time in contemplation, open to any lessons on humility He wishes to teach me, no matter how difficult they may be. (I have had some experience with His lessons.) I especially welcome His leadership in my life and at my work. I love the way in which He takes care of the people in my directorate, sometimes even protecting them from bad decisions I make when I forget to ask for His help, and in my family and community.

I will now leave you to your prayer and contemplation, but first, I would like to bring to your attention a Monday morning prayer post that you might enjoy:

Fr. Austin Fleming, priest of the Archdiocese of Boston and pastor in Concord, Massachusetts, posts a prayer each Monday morning that he calls "Monday Morning Offering." I enjoy his prayers very much. I hope you also will find them inspirational. He has graciously given me permission to include a link to his blog on my Monday Morning Meditation posts.

For additional inspiration throughout the week, I would point out two sets of blogs: (1) the list of inspirational blogs that follow the enumeration of Monday Morning Meditations on the sidebar of this blog and (2) my blogroll, where I am following a number of inspirational priests and writers about spiritual matters. I learn so very much from all these people. I highly recommend them to you.

Have a good day and a good week, remembering in all things to do humbly whatever God requires of you. May you be blessed by His love and His aid as you do so.

8 comments:

Nina P. said...

You are echoing my thoughts here. I don't single out any specific religion or belief but my statement has been "Due to personalities, ego's and politics; the True Message is getting lost." Your term arrogance fits perfect. Love and Compassion, for me, seems to be the message that keeps getting lost. We are all brothers and sisters, Created to live With each other with Love, Compassion and may I add Hope and Joy. I enjoyed your post today. Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you and yours. And may we all have humility and an attitude of gratitude. Love and Light, Nina P

Elizabeth Mahlou said...

I think you are quite right, Nina, in that we are missing the true message today. The New Age focuses us on SELF-development and SELF-fulfillment as we scramble to find Meaning in life. The irony is that Meaning is right here with us, but to find Meaning, we have to let go of the Self and let God guide us, develop us, fulfill us -- and from that will flow the love, compassion, hope, and joy that we are missing and so desperately want. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

Sheila Deeth said...

Very wise post. Thank you. We miss a lot of serious and necessary teaching when we ignore the Old Testament.

Victor S E Moubarak said...

Modern society teaches its members to be in control, and this in itself encourages arrogance, disobedience and lack of respect towards authority.

Whether in daily life, or whether in thier relationship with God, people seem to think they know best.

Celebrities, famous personalities, sportsmen, politicains and similar role models seldom display humility as a virtue.

tattytiara said...

I find arrogance really difficult to identify in others. There are so many other things that can look just like it, especially shyness.

Rachel M said...

So glad I stumbled across your blog. You gave me a lot of food for thought. I'm reminded to spend more time in the OT as I do in the NT as there is a wealth of instruction and wisdom contained there.

I find arrogance (which stems from the sin of pride) is too often applauded in today's world. It is seen as "powerful", in control, a mark of someone who is to be treated with respect or else. I see that we feed arrogance in others by treating them as demigods or idols. Movie stars, musicians, models, sports stars and the like often fall into this sin...as do we for allowing our own behavior and attitudes towards them only feeds their arrogance. The sin of pride via arrogance is two-fold, I think. It is ours for placing another in such high esteem as to idolize them and it is theirs for looking inward at self rather than upward to God.

Elizabeth Mahlou said...

Victor - when we do see a humble celebrity, it is overwhelming; one such person is Shirley Temple Black, a former student of mine when she was in training to be the ambassador to Czechoslovakia; her autobiography reveals much humility and from my personal experience of her, it is real.

Sheila - I am amazed at how much of the OT applies today.

Tattytiara - I have known of such cases, where people are assumed to be arrogant but are only shy or insecure. The difference comes out over time.

Rachel - You may be right that we encourage arrogance by worshipping the powerful. Yet, real power comes from giving away power. Few understand that. I just took on a new manager who I thought understood that but clearly does not. Hiring error perhaps. I hope her colleagues and I will be able to bring her into a servant leadership state of mind.

Marie said...

I wanted to jump on the comment by Tattytiara, that is so true and something you have to learn.

I did not know there was a servant model for business management, love that.

Post a Comment

Blest Guests' Posts' Index

"Stand Back, and Let God Work" (Anne Bender, Imprisoned in My Bones - Releasing My Inner Jeremiah), September 23, 2009









"Like a Dream" (Sarah, Cult of Deception), October 7, 2009








"There Is Someone Watching Out for Me" (Ashley Siferd, If Necessary, Use Words), October 14, 2009








"Thank God for Good Bible Translations" (Karinann, Daughter of the King), November 18, 2009




"God Uses Us to Help Humans" (Sitka/Andrea Perdue, All Gods Creatures), November 25, 2009



"Sadhu Sundar Singh: A Christian Ascetic Holy Man" (Amrita from India), February 3, 2010

My Other Blogs









The Clan of Mahlou
.
This blog provides background information about various members of the extended Mahlou family. It is very much a work still in progress.









H2 Helper
This blog is dedicated to promoting personalized help to the hungry and homeless.











Mahlou Musings
.
This site contains excerpts from my various publications. The tiger is a representation of my spirit and my life.








Modern Mystics
This blog discusses the mystical in our pragmatic, practical, realistic, and rational 21st century world and is addressed to those who spend some or much of their time in an irrational/mystical relationship with God. If such things do not strain your credulity, you are welcome to follow the blog and participate in it.

Catholic Converts

Christian Bloggers

Catholic Mothers Online

Labels

Search This Blog

Loading...

Welcome, visitors, from wherever you are!

Share

Bookmark and Share